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When I was first married, I was 26 years old. I was in college, worked at a rock n’ roll venue at night, and had zero spiritual practices other than listening to heavy metal records that sampled Sanskrit chanting. 10 years later- I was an Ayurvedic Practitioner, had a B.S. in forest resources, and was initiated into two spiritual lineages and meditated daily. And that in just 10 years time! Over the course of our lives, you can and should evolve.  Your partner will not stay the same, and neither will you.

Sometimes these evolutions alter our values systems and daily routines so much that we find ourselves completely out of sync with our partners, and when this happens it can be pretty scary. However, change is completely natural, and this should be expected rather than feared! Learning how to stay connected in evolution is the true test of a relationship and indeed can lead to a crossroads where separation makes sense. And- it doesn’t have to.

By using curiosity about our partners and our own evolution, you can actually create MORE intimacy and depth, especially by inviting your partner into your journey. They don’t need to be as immersed as you, but even a little effort can go a really long way.

Contrary to how Hollywood portrays sex, there is much more to having great sex than make out, orgasm, finish. For years of my life, I felt like something was wrong with me because I wasn’t turned on by this sequence, and I felt forlorn, isolated, and confused about why sex was only fun sometimes but, more often, was an obligatory act. Fast forward to my 30’s when I reclaimed my individual sexuality and started doing what felt good to ME instead of what I had learned from movies.

Tapping into your erotic blueprint, exploring new ways of touch and connection, and letting go of self body shaming are radically important on this journey- as is communicating your needs and desires to your partner in a way they can HEAR, instead of overwhelming them or making them feel inadequate. I love supporting my clients on this journey, because with the right frameworks, you can turn sex into a divine, hot, and delicious experience instead of something to be endured or avoided.

Making space to try new things and be creative with your partner is a CRITICAL component of long-term chemistry and relationship success. To learn more, please visit info and book a call with me or sign up for my mailing list!

Have you ever been  in a relationship where your fights were next level? Maybe you called them names, maybe they screamed at you, or maybe you were stonewalled with the silent  treatment… Whatever it was, it made you and  your partner miserable!

If you spend time with other human beings, you are bound to have a differing viewpoint or opinion at some point, and more than likely, many points along the way! Conflict on its own is not a bad thing- it’s HOW you fight that makes or breaks a relationship. Growing up, my parents were in relationships where there was yelling, contempt, criticism, and stonewalling,  and I’m not proud to say- I used a lot of these less than awesome patterns in my own relationships for YEARS. 

The good news?  I was able to transform my communication style using principles from non violent communication. Learning how to voice your experiences and needs in a non-blaming, non-shaming way is a CRITICAL skill in the relationship game- and not just with your lovers, but with your friends and  family as well. Once I learned these tools, I was more than pleasantly surprised by how responsive people were to me- and this took me from stuffing my needs and exploding at random intervals like a burst firehose, to speaking my needs and truth in a kind, compassionate way that nevertheless upheld my own personal boundaries. If I can do it, and my clients can do it?? So can YOU! Which brings me to the final C that is actually the foundation of ALL of the above core principles of conscious connection and relationship.

Learning how to communicate effectively is the single most powerful skill you can develop in your life- and I say that with zero exaggeration. As Tony Robbins so succinctly says “The quality of your life is the quality of your communication.”

And boy, is he right! In fact, most of what my clients really learn when they work with a certified relationship coach like me is how to communicate their needs, desires, and experiences in a way that can be HEARD. Because when you do that effectively, wow! Your life does transform!

The truth is many of you reading this feel uncomfortable sharing your needs directly. If you are saying things like “My partner should just know what I want, I shouldn’t have to ask”, chances are you are struggle with this. And if you struggle with this? All parts of your life  will suffer as a result. 

Here’s a little secret for you- the real reason people struggle to communicate their needs with others. When this happens it’s almost always because you are future-casting a negative outcome. The mind is a great friend and a TERRIBLE enemy- it can make asking your partner for help with the dishes mean she is going to leave you, it can make asking for your sexual desires mean you are going to be judged a freak and abandoned… and all other kinds of crazy talk!

Yes, creating a powerful, conscious connection with your partner takes work- but trust me, the work is well worth the reward of intimacy, security, and bliss you can experience when you have someone to do life with.