If you are wondering, “Why don’t I want to have sex anymore?” 💔
You are not alone.
One article I read said that 40-70% of women have low libido!
And part of what made me become a sex and relationship coach is that I used to struggle with the same damn thing!
Or so I thought…
However, the truth of what was really happening might surprise you—and hell, it might even inspire you.
Let me start at the beginning.
When I was a teenager and young adult, I definitely had a strong libido.
But I didn’t really like having sex.
Weird?
Not really (more on that in another article, so stay tuned).
MANY of my clients report something similar.
As I entered my late 20s and 30s, and with years of marriage under my belt, my libido all but disappeared.
I remember laying in bed crying, wondering how the hell I was going to fix this, and feeling really shitty that my husband was also unhappy as a result of me not wanting to have sex.
Fast forward 10 years and a divorce…
I was at my first week-long workshop to help me unravel sexual shame and trauma, and I was super nervous.
Were icky dudes gonna hit on me?
Was nobody going to hit on me?
As we went through the exercises, I had a massive breakthrough…
I actually have a very healthy libido and I’m not genital penetration driven.
As I learned more and more about my erotic blueprint, I realized—
All those Hollywood movie scenes where the girl is hot, heavy, and ready to go in an instant???
Had left me with a concept of how to get turned on that was completely wrong for my erotic and intimacy blueprint type!
The truth?
I hadn’t been receiving the kind of attention and stimulation that worked for me—I had been trying to stumble along by learning what some fictional characters on TV do…weird that it didn’t work, right? Lol
This is why one of the big parts of the work I do with my relationship coaching clients in Austin, the Bay Area, and globally is to help people unravel how to get turned on according to their unique needs.
Not based on some Hollywood fantasy that probably did more harm than good to your sex life.
My guess is that the real reason so many people have low libidos is connected to this:
They have no clue what their sensual needs are because nobody teaches us this stuff!
The great news? This means your low libido problem could very well be—
A lack of the right activity to get you turned on.
Because I’ve seen the transformation in hundreds of people and clients firsthand.
Clients who went from thinking they would NEVER have great sex or feel safe in partnership—
Having the best sex of their lives at age 50!!!
If they can do it, so can you.
Your loving sex and relationship coach in Austin, TX, who is here to help you make your dream sex life come true,
Amaya Shiva