EXCELLENTTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Amaya is amazing! She’s super attentive and really gives great suggestions and practical advice! Highly recommend to anyone 🙌🏼Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Amaya is the best! I had 12 sessions with her over the course of 4 months and I can confidently say that my approach to relationships has been transformed. Amaya was efficient, impactful, and empathetic in every session - I walked away with a mind-blowing realization every single time we met. I could not recommend her enough if you are looking to elevate your connections, and so, your life.Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Amaya has such a brilliance about her and such an incredible way of delivering her knowledge. I really enjoy working with her and feel that every time we have worked together, which is two times now, I get incredibly impactful pieces of information that help me in my life. Highly recommend working with her! Thanks again ❤️Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I recently had an astrology reading with Amaya, and it was an amazing experience! She was incredibly thorough, insightful, and knowledgeable, helping me learn so much more about myself. Her expertise truly shows in the way she explains everything with clarity and depth. I highly recommend Amaya to anyone looking for a meaningful and enlightening reading!Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Receaving a reading from Amaya was fun , insightful and SO informative. I learnd things about myself that were new but felt alighned and affirming along with intuative knowings I have about myself. It was like receaving a roadmap and knowing where and how to take action to support the roadmap. I highly recomend Amaya for your astrlogy reading. She's intuative , real , has a wonderful spirit about her. You will be in good and trusted hands.Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Working with Amaya has been transformative. She holds a loving and encouraging space for change and insight to occur. She is Greta at communication and holding you accountable to the changes that you want to see in your life. I am grateful to have worked with her for over a year now.Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. This was my first Vedic astrology reading and she did NOT disappoint. I left the session with so much knowledge that TOTALLY made sense. I was able to connect the dots to so much stuff that was happening in my life. It really showed me it's "written in the stars." If you have been thinking about working with Amaya just do it! She truly cares and goes into great detail. Plus she gave me Vedic knowledge on how to move forward and really cool remedies. I will be back for future occurrences in my life. My mind was blown. Plus im going back just to be in her awesome energy. She's a badass.Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Working with Amaya was so crucial in my healing journey. Not only did she help me reach my goal of achieving intimacy within my relationship but also showed me the importance of the intimacy with myself that I never even knew could exist. Thanks to my work with Amaya, I now have the tools to break old patterns, challenge belief systems that no longer serve me, and create true intimacy everywhere in my life. The world we know would change if everyone could do this work on themselves.Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Amaya is super knowledgable about all things Ayurveda & human connection. I truly enjoyed my enlightening vedic astrology reading and delving in to the details of my romantic love languages. I look forward to working with her more in the future. She is a gift!Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Amaya leads a very safe container to be heard and gives access to tools that are so helpful!!! She has clear and concise feedback and her deep devotion to study is apparent by the way she discusses Vedic astrology. She infuses her life experiences that add even more credibility to her ways of connecting on a human level. She’s compassion, caring and really so wise. If you are considering booking a session, book one for your friend too because we all will want Amaya in our lives
Struggling with a lack of desire or chemistry in your relationship? Going through the motions in the bedroom because it feels like an obligation? Maybe you’re not having sex at all and feeling guilty about it. You might be afraid to express your needs, doing things that don’t truly excite you, or feeling frustrated by not having enough intimacy. Perhaps your experiences leave you wondering, “Is this really all there is?” If any of this resonates in your sex life, you’re in the right place—and I have some amazing news for you!
Sex is one of the most intimate, sacred, and absolutely delightful acts of the human sexuality. When you approach it with the right frameworks and empowered with your intimacy blueprint, the SKY is the limit!
Whether you have been struggling to connect with your own sexual desires and are ready to change that, you want to be turned on instead of “meh” when it comes to having sex with your partner, or you want to become a powerful and confident lover in just 3-6 months time of intimacy coaching sessions – you are in the right place!
As a sex and relationship coach online, I work with my clients in 4 main areas to help them express their sexuality with confidence and WITHOUT guilt, shame, or apology. These areas include:
✓ Identifying your Intimacy Blueprint and what turns you and your partner so you can feel HOT in sexual encounters.
✓ How to create Erotic containers that are safe, sexy, and FUN for your sexual fantasies and exploration.
✓ How to communicate your needs in and out of the bedroom so that you can clear emotional resentments or fears that block you from asking for what you want.
✓How to become deeply attuned to yourself and your partner so you only go as far as feels great to BOTH parties, building long term trust and fulfilling sex life instead of feeling “obligated.”
If you are wondering, “What is an Erotic Blueprint??” and “What’s an erotic ‘container?”, no sweat! Most of my clients don’t know what these things are until they start working with me and start learning these principles by putting them into practice! Facts- 99% of you (us!) did not learn that there are different erotic blueprints, love languages, and sexual needs person to person growing up.
You were taught that sex looks like
“That person’s hot!”
“They like me too- Let’s make out!”
5 minutes later
“Time for sex! Better use a condom or you might get pregnant or get AIDS”
5 minutes after that
“The man had an orgasm! Sex is now over.”
Whoa!!! SLOW THE FRICK DOWN! So many people are getting it wrong because of these poor examples from Hollywood movies, feeling confused because their erotic turnon doesn’t work like that, and then feel shut down, lonely, and disconnected in the bedroom.
And no wonder! As humans, we model what we see- and facts, MOST of us were exposed to sex through movies and porn magazines (at least in my generation). We are also simultaneously taught that while people ARE having sex, you better do it in secret or else! Did you ever walk in on your parents having sex? How did they respond? I bet it wasn’t
“Hey sweetie, we are having sex right now, can you please shut the door? We will be out in a little while.”
Nope- it was probably someone yelling
“GET OUT!!!”
You rushed out as fast as you could, adrenaline pumping and feeling scared about what you had just witnessed- and really confused! Because what the heck? Why are they yelling at you for seeing something THEY are doing?
Getting support from a sex and intimacy coach so you can be an embodied lover is the best investment you can make to create the relationship of your dreams. Because FACTS- most people carry a lot of shame that blocks them from feeling safe to fully connect with others.
I have helped clients overcome shame who say-
The Great News?! None of that shit matters- at all!
When I first started having sex as a teenager, I felt pressure to do it because all the cool kids were having sex, and I DESPERATELY wanted to fit in and belong. Needless to say- it didn’t feel very good to me back then.
In my 20’s I used alcohol to check out during sex, and to give myself permission to be sexual because I was bullied and shamed by other women for expressing those parts of myself.
When I quit drinking, I disconnected from my sexuality almost entirely because that Hollywood format was NOT working for me and I thought something was wrong with me.
In most of my relationships, I struggled to feel consistently turned on, and wondered what the hell was wrong with me.
It took me until 36 and getting a divorce to get clear that I was NO longer willing to put up with this in my life, and that I needed to drastically change if I wanted to have the relationship and sex I truly desired! And boy oh did, did it WORK! Not only did I start having the incredible sex I always dreamed about, I also completely leveled up the caliber of partner I called in, AND transformed my social group. And I have now coached hundreds of people from around the world to do the same!
Completely transform your confidence, pleasure, sexual skills, and erotic expression so you can live out your fantasies and desires you’ve kept hidden with confidence
Learn sex education and powerful communication tools to express your needs with ease and confidence so that you feel great after each encounter instead of saying “Why did I do that?”, or “Why DIDN”T I do that??”
This work is NOT for you if:
You don’t care about your erotic expression and sexual pleasure and think great sex isn’t important.
You don’t want to invest in yourself and are just looking for more “free content” instead of actually doing the work with a certified sex coach who will hold you to your highest and keep you accountable.
If this is you? I am not your person.
“I tell everyone I can about Amaya. This work has changed my life and continues to help me grow on a daily basis.”
Pat H
“When I say the work is working… I am watching it transform everything around me in the most beautiful, orgasmic way. I am so connected to my body… And physical intimacy feels like a spiritual experience. It is truly unbelievable.”
Amber O
“Working with Amaya has been transformative! She holds a loving and encouraging space for change.. I am grateful to have worked with her for over a year now!!”
Mandie R
How do you know if you are sexually compatible with someone?
Ah, the age old question of sexual compatibiity. If you have ever wondered, “Am I sexually compatible with my partner? Can sexual compatibility be created or is just there- or not?
“Will I ever find someone sexually compatilbe to me?” This article for you. As a sex and relationship coach who has supported hundreds of men and women from around the globe, I’m excited to share powerful insights gained from my professional experience that could be the missing link to creating the happy, healthy, and hot relationship of your dreams!
When I was younger, I really struggled with feeling sexually shut down and lack of turn on. Occasionally I would experience a really hot connection, especially if it was with a person I had a longtime crush on, but more often than not, the actual sexual intercourse part was disappointing. The truth is, I had NO idea what my erotic blueprint was, or how to communicate my desires and boundaries. And that, my friends, is a recipe for bad sex.
The Great news?! The formula for having GREAT erotic experiences is easy peasy, and connects right into understanding sexual compatibility!
The reason I am putting this first is that while yes, different people have different sexual desires, the truth is- this does NOT have to be a deal breaker IF you are willing to be honest about your needs, boundaries, and desires. Heck, you might even find yourself pleasantly surprised that something you thought of as being “weird” actually feels really freaking good, and could be your new favorite activity!
Honoring the boundaries of yourself and your partner is also REALLY freaking important. Why? Because if you consistently engage in sexual activities you aren’t a fuck yes to, you could eventually experience sexual shutdown because when you honor your sexual boundaries (and that of your partner), you make sure that:
A). Both parties are a fuck yes to what’s happening, thus avoiding inflicting sexual trauma or an unwanted experience onto someone you are desiring to have pleasure with
B). You can relax into the experience because you have already created safety and reassurance through your open and honest communication.
Speaking your desires is also equally important in creating sexual compatibility, because if you don’t say what you want, how the heck is anyone gonna what it is? Speaking them is great practice for honoring your worthiness to have experiences that you want to, and to make sure the other person is board!
Having similar sexual desires can be helpful in terms of timing, positions, toys, or other special ingredients and experiences that do it for you. The most important sexual desire, however, is you both WANT to experience pleasure with the person in front of you. If you have that, then you are already on the right track. And if not? Then either you need to break it off, or uncover what’s blocking you from desiring that with your partner (usually unmet needs).
When a type of touch or contact to certain body parts is always the signal for sex, it can make sex feel routine and transactional. One of the biggest killers for me in relationships before I did this work was feeling obligated to have sex after making out, and that in turn made me avoid making out when I didn’t want to have sex. It took kissing and sensual touch off the table and made them transactional, instead of allowing them to be enjoyed on their own.
If touch in certain ways or certain body parts always leads to sex, this could be a way that the relationship uses sex to get close to each other as opposed to the other methods listed above (talking, emotional intimacy, seeking resolution, seeking healing, exploring fantasies together). Touch in non-sensual/non-sexual ways like hugs, hand holding, eye contact, and back massage could all connect the relationship and build capacity for intimacy and passion later on.
Touch can also be a way that people are groomed to have sexual experiences that become routine. In some cases, foot rubs that were originally used as a way to relax before sex could be interpreted by the receiver as payment for sex in return for the foot rub. Therefore, foot rubs before sex, without sexual expectations in return will make the foot rubs enjoyable in all circumstances since there is no expectation for sex.
Are you ready to create the sex, intimacy, and relationship of your dreams?!
As a sex coach, I empower my clients to explore their sexuality and achieve personal goals related to intimacy and relationships. Unlike therapists, I do NOT treat diagnosed sexual dysfunctions, which is the realm of a sex therapist.
Customized approach: Each client is different, and I tailor my coaching to the unique needs, experience, and desires that you have as an individual. There is no hands on involvement in my work, and my sex coaching is talk-based, focusing on powerful communication and sensual explorations that are done in your personal time outside of our sessions.
If you are seeking confidence in the bedroom, you want to understand and unlock your creative sexuality, you want to explore new and exciting sexual experiences, you want to overcome sexual performance anxiety whether you are a man or a woman, and you want to work with a knowledgeable and trustworthy intimacy coach known for getting their clients results, then you are in the right place!
I coach women and men because they want to elevate their sex and intimate lives to be full of pleasure, connection, and respect for themselves and their partners. They want to have great sex, and want proven strategies to get that! My clients are very diverse, ranging from VP’s of tech companies, to mental health therapists, to floor managers at casinos and everything in between.
You are a great fit for sex and relationship coaching if
If you are experiencing significant mental health issues, have severe sexual dysfunction that could indicate underlying medical conditions, have a history or sexual trauma that requires therapeutic processing from a psychologist, or you are looking for a clinical diagnosis or treatment of a sexual issue, then you should seek a therapist. Sex coaching is NOT a substitute for therapy, though it can be used in tandem with therapy upon discussion with your coach and therapist. I have supported numerous clients who were also undergoing therapy, and have found that it can be a very powerful and helpful combination.
The best place to start is by applying for a free 30 minute consultation with me. I work with my clients for a minimum of 3 months, and have supported many individuals for much longer
Apply for a free 30 minute Pleasure & Partnership session (valued at $250) with sex and relationship life coach Amaya Shiva today!
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